His G.R.A.C.E.
I got this from William (Wesley’s youth counsellor)…I think this is a good article and would like to share it with all.. it is about G.R.A.C.E.
Before that, let me share with you something….
I was talking to Samuel the other day, regarding hurts and disappointment in relationship..the question is " What will you do if you are hurt by your partner? Will you revenge (hurt your partner back the same way he/she hurt you) or tell them that you are hurt by their actions or will you just walk away(break up)?"
At the very beginning, I actually told him that i will revenge (which is not such a good response and word to use; I repent!!! 
) then after discussion, i decided that i will not revenge…Neither will I walk away without putting effort to mend the relationship. I will first talk to him about what i felt is wrong or is hurting me, then if the same thing happen again and again for like…XXX times or more, then I will decide to see if I should really walk away…(This doesn’t just apply to relationship with our partner, but for everything, for everyone..)
There certainly should not be any revenge in a relationship, be it in a marriage, friendship or relationship…Revenge is not something we ought to do, we are to LOVE and to be forgiving,in this case, it is also giving G.R.A.C.E.. We should not hurt the other party back, not with our actions or words…Hurtful words can be very damaging and it is really hurtful, it will leave a scar, some, a few scars or scars that are too deep that only God can cure..Words that come out from out tongue can be of support, building a person up OR of hurts, which can bring a person down. Thus, be very careful of the words that come out from our mouth, instead of using it to hurt people, why not use it to encourage, support, love, and build up a person? The same goes with our actions, instead of doing it to hurt a person and at the same time, hurting yourself, why not use it to bring glory to God? Shine for Him and show His love to others through our actions?
To use our words and actions wisely, we need grace and to have grace, we need God (it might sound a bit too holy, but i think it is true)…
As for me, i am still learning..not to revenge by actions or words, but to love a person and the people around me with G.R.A.C.E., L.O.V.E., and M.E.R.C.Y.. For all of us need grace…
Do spend sometime reading the material below, it is sent by William…Hope that you all are blessed thru this…Let us all learn to give grace, I am learning…and still learning… Grace is hardest when we are accused of something we know isn’t true. We can’t really forgive until we see ourselves “forgiven” by God. And with HIS Grace and strength we will overcome the evil intentions of our heart for personal revenge. May God heal all of us as we go to HIM daily. May God be with us.
The Root of Bitterness
TGIF Today God Is First, by Os Hillman
See to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many. -
Hebrews 12:15
The enemy of our souls has a very specific strategy to destroy relationships. Whether these relationships are in business, marriage, or friendships, the strategy is the same. A conflict arises, judgments are made, and feelings are hurt. What happens next is the defining point of whether the enemy gains a foothold, or the grace of God covers the wrong.
When a root of bitterness is allowed to be planted and grown, it not only affects that person, but it also affects all others who are involved. It is like a cancer.
Breaking satan
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s foothold requires at least one person to press into God
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s grace. It cannot happen when either party "feels" like it, for none of us will ever feel like forgiving. None of us feel like talking when we have been hurt. Our natural response is to withdraw or lash out at the offending party. It is only obedience that allows God
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s grace to cover the wrongs incurred. This grace prevents the parties from becoming victims who will seek compensation for their pain.
The next time you are hurt by someone, realize the gravity of the crossroads where you find yourself. Choose grace instead of bitterness. Then you will be free to move past the hurt, and a root of bitterness will not be given opportunity to grow.
